Jada Pinkett Smith recently posted the following on her Facebook page, and it made a light bulb go off in my head so I had to share:
|Images From Jada’s Facebook Page|
I think I am finally getting a grasp of the balance between selflessness and selfishness. That’s right… selfishness. It gets drilled in our heads from birth the importance of selflessness, and we are rarely shown the importance of the mature, responsible methods of selfishness. We have been so conditioned that even the word selfishness is too distasteful to some of us to even examine its methods and benefits. But I am here to tell you that just because we are mothers, wives, partners, daughters… women, we are not wrong for wanting to pursue things that are fulfilling to ourselves solely. The same stands for our fathers, husbands, partners, sons… men. Our personal happiness is the gift we give to ourselves, that is the elixir to enhancing our contribution to any group we choose to be apart of. You might want to call it something different, but take a moment to see where putting YOU first, could do you some good.
As RuPaul would say, “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love somebody else? Can I hear an amen?”