This morning I woke-up and realized that I love myself! No, I really mean it. For the first time, I can say I love myself wholeheartedly -flaws and all!! Don’t get me wrong, I have never hated myself. I have, however, always been extra critical of myself, and have never been able to complete myself or give myself the necessary love I needed to be happy.
The tell-tale sign came to me when I ended a bad relationship about five years ago. I found myself looking for love in another person, accepting whatever they would give me, thinking they could somehow figure out what it is I need to feel validated. I was able to give him the love I felt I desired, so why couldn’t he do the same, right? Wrong! I was investing my love in the wrong person, and I found myself vulnerable to every criticism he threw my way about my worth.
I had to ask myself:
How can the people in my life truly love me if I haven’t first showed love to myself?
My self-esteem was at an all time low, and I had to make a change. It started with a search… I started praying, mediating, and reading anything I could get my hands on that would help me restore my self-love.
Steps to Self-Love:
- Tell yourself “I Love You!” everyday.
- Don’t wait for someone else to validate your worth for love.
- Get rid of toxic relationships and friendships.
- Date yourself! At least once a week, do something by yourself that you enjoy doing.
- Laugh at yourself instead of criticizing everything you do.
I will make sure I share all of my self-love resources that helped me through my 2 year process next week. If you have anything you would like to add, please share!